Just need an shoulder

[francine6413]

I am 45yrs young. I would like to find a nice companion that I can lend on sometimes. My girls hate that I am trying to find someone. I can't talk to a man on the phone without my youngest getting an attitude. I'm getting really upset with my child over this. I have tried to talk with her about this and we still having problems. All my life I know that it may be partly my fault because I have been there for my children. But I need someone in my life. I am sick and tired of not having someone there for me. When I go on a long vacation I don't want just my sister and my girls. I want a strong handsome Andy Garcia by my side.
So right now I am just starting to get back to dating and not allow my girls to get on my last nerve. Besides it won't be too long before my youngest goes off to college.

[Missy]

I think that maybe your girls are afraid that you will spend less time with them..or that maybe they don't want some strange man coming into their life and just start telling them what to do. I'm sure that if you sat down and explained how you are feeling, how you feel alone and want a companion in your life they would understand. No one wants to be alone or spend their life alone and I think it's great that you want to get out there and date. I don't think you should let your children decide that for you. Good luck!

[Trying4Thin]

Hi Francine;

As somebody who has spent their entire life alone (sans relationship), I know where you are coming from. I fully agree with Missy about your kids (young adults) feeling like you will have less time for them if you find somebody else. I do think you need to have a chat with them to make sure that you are all on the same page. Maybe they dont want to see you get hurt again. Whatever their reasons; they are concerned and it is coming out as being selfish. Make sure that they know that you arent going to "abandon" them if you do find that somebody special. That they are family so they will always be most important; but you have needs too that go beyond parenting. You deserve to have an adult relationship as well; just like they will feel the need to date and have friends who arent you. You are all entitled. You could also ask their opinion of the guy whom you are interested in. Letting them have their say will allow them to not feel left out of the loop. But the end decision should be left up to you. I wish you the best.

[Widdlecuddles]

Hi Francine

I agree with the others. It may be a good idea to sit down with them and have a heart to heart. Let them see where you are coming from and also listen to what they have to say about it. Sometimes there are problems because people dn't talk things out and just assume what other people are thinking. Good luck in whatever you decide to do... And good luck finding that strong handsome andy Garcia to have by your side