Do you ever feel like you hide behind your weight?

[susieokla]

Originally Posted by Trying4Thin

I have to say that the major reason that this guy and I arent together is not because of my weight. He didnt like it, but he could have delt with it had I not been so lazy, unhappy, and insecure about it. My weight made me extremely shy, and self conscious. I couldnt reach out to him like a normal person would have. And when I was ready, he was fed up with me. I am not giving up, but I am going to back off for now. It is going to be really hard to ignore the new me. (I mean that I will have changed so much inside and out.) However, I am scared, no terrified to meet and go out with anyone else. Yes there is somebody interested (online thing). Help!! The 1st guy is still #1 for me. But the second guy is really sweet. I hope you and your significant other find your way back to each other, if it is ment to be. Life is too short to be spent without your soulmate.
Hope you taped Dr Phil. I was all but crying my eyes out.
1 hour and 15 mins til it's Loser Time!

I think you're doing the right thing by backing off with the 1st guy. Take a break, focus on yourself. Like you said, you're already changing on the inside and the outside and he will notice and if he can't see that you're changing for the better then you need to move on. Just listen to your heart and your instincts. Trust me, I know it's hard. Hang in there!!!

[susieokla]

Originally Posted by ehyatt

Now she's got her own "walking shoes" and a new attitude!

That's right!!! Woo-Hoo!! And I'm wearing the soles out of them burning up the treadmill!!

[Missy]

You should never let anyone other than yourself influence the way you feel about yourself. Just because you may be overweight doesn't mean one HAS to have low self-esteem, I know many bigger women who have MORE self-esteem than I do. YOU have to know that you are worth it...you can't depend on others to make you feel a certain way. I've learned that the hard way.

[Big_Girl_Bigger_Heart]

After reading your question, I began to think about it. In a way, I do hide behind my weight. I will find a million and one reasons not to dress up, or to leave the house. I have grown tired of the stares, and rude comments.
As for you being worried about a man....I firmly believe that unless you love yourself 100%, and respect yourself the same way, you'll never have a good relationship. Lose the weight, reach your goal...then ask yourself....What is it I can achieve now? The answer my shock you.
Lady Jami

[weaverdelooh]

Well, I don't feel like I "hide behind my weight", maybe behind my boobs, or in front of my butt, but honey I'm so big it's kind of hard to hide!!!! lol, having fun here!

Originally Posted by susieokla

I've been thinking the past few weeks as I've been losing weight. I think that I kind of "hide" behind my weight.

I don't have very good self esteem and I don't think I'm very attractive and since the break up with my ex fiance' and thinking about being single and the possibility of dating other men I'm kind of scared that I'm losing weight.

Before I could always tell myself that men aren't attracted to me because I'm overweight. Well, if I lose the weight I'm afraid men are still not going to be attracted to me and I'm going to have to admit to myself that it wasn't the weight, it's just that I'm not very attractive.

Does that make any sense at all??

[susieokla]

Originally Posted by weaverdelooh

Well, I don't feel like I "hide behind my weight", maybe behind my boobs, or in front of my butt, but honey I'm so big it's kind of hard to hide!!!! lol, having fun here!

You're too funny!!!