BBW (big beautiful women)

[muppet]

Hmmm -- Jules brings up an interesting point. I have a daughter. She is 10. I want her to be able to look up to women who are strong, confident and smart. She is all those things right now. I don't want her looking up to anyone, because of their looks.
It's one thing to be comfortable in your body, whatever it's size, and another to claim that you're sexier because you're fat. Wow -- wouldn't that be great. We could eat whatever we wanted, sit around all day, and still be sexy.
Yeah, sounds great, but that's not reality. Those of us who do have problems over eating know that you don't feel better when you give in to temptation -- you feel worse -- mentally and physically.
Be proud of who you are, and what you do. But I don't know how you can be proud of that, if you don't even care enough to try take care of yourself.

[Jules]

Grrr, just lost my reply. Okay, trying this again.

Muppet, I think we're agreeing without realizing it. Perhaps I misread the initial post. When I think of BBW I think of women like Queen Latifah (just watched Last Holiday), who is large-framed and heavy in weight, yet proud of who she is and not always focused on dieting and becoming skinny. Perhaps this isn't the type of person you all meant considering you all started talking about wheel-chair bound people who think only fat is beautiful and the fatter the better. I completely agree that people need to take care of their health to truly be proud.

Originally Posted by muppet

Be proud of who you are, and what you do. But I don't know how you can be proud of that, if you don't even care enough to try take care of yourself.

I agree with this completely, but on a wider perspective of our society this, to me, seems a bit ironic. As a society we're generally quite hard on fat people. Many people mistreat their bodies in more "acceptable" ways by partying, drinking lots, plastic surgery, drugs, reckless/fast driving. It's a lot less demeaning/career-breakingfor people to go to AA meetings or plastic surgeons than fat-camp though. All are abuses to our natural health, but our society can be particularly hard on overweight people while not applying the same moral code to other types of people abusing their health.

So basically I think we're all agreeing, but maybe I misunderstood the BBW reference. I wish society wasn't so hard on us overeaters, but that's life. I hope you all have pride in who you are and that every day your appearance is more and more pleasing to YOU!