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Originally Posted by weaverdelooh
easy test.... withdrawl the option of his borrowing money. Make a decision that you either want to pay off debt, or you want to invest your extra finances so that you can say save for a house, or maybe even pay cash for that next car. If he loves you he won't care about the money. If he's just hanging around for the money, he'll run like a dog with it's tail between it's legs!!!!
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Good call Weaver. It's tough to think about, but you really need to be in a healthy relationship and to be sure it's healthy on both ends, the weight and the money and any other issues. I agree witha previous poster that if something feels wrong in your gut, something usually is. But it may not be him, it may be you aren't sure of yourself. Only you know this.
I always have been overweight but somehow had lots of dates. I used to tell myself that guys would ask me out because I was approachable. They didn't want to date me really, but they didn't think they had a chance with the hot girls. That was totally destructive to my relationships and not their fault at all.
I'm working on my self-image and luckily am joined by my fiance who loves me but has helped me recognize my feelings towards myself and their impact on our relationship. I too met my guy online and established a connection and he, a very handsome likeable guy, dropped everything and moved here from Australia to be with me. I dont think internet dating is always the solution, but I think sometimes it's easier to be yourself and show your personality without worrying about your appearance.
You sound like a wonderful person and a thoughtful one. Don't let yourself feel use by him and make sure you are treating yourself fairly too. Best wishes with everything girl.
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