Got Anger?

[Trying4Thin]

I am getting completely pissed off that everytime I sign on now I have to do site maintanence. This onslaught of SPAM is nauseating. But I knew the peace and quiet wouldnt last for long. You get one; and more will follow...

So I thought that this thread would be appropriate...
How do you handle your anger (before and after weight loss?)

Before:

I would usually eat til I was sick. (Huge emotional/binge eater). Then again; any emotion was excuse for a carb 'n junk free for all. Or I would pitch a fit, or go to sleep and hope it would just go away.

After:
I seem to have slid to the other end of the spectrum. If I get angry now; I dont eat much (or at all), or I go and exercise until I feel better. Neither extreme end of the scale are positive; but undereating is better than a 5,000 calorie pig out. I shudder to think what I used to put away in a sitting. I am doing much better with the anger reaction (with the exception of getting passed over again). I get over things a lot faster. A grudge is just an excuse to carry around extra emotional weight. Yell once to get it off your chest and move on. You will feel relieved and lighter all over.

Yes, landing face first into a Large Pepperoni, Extra Cheese, and Green Pepper Pizza is MUCH more fun. But is it really all that practical or even rewarding? I used to think so. The winds of change seem to have tipped the decisions scale once again in my favor. Food is not intended to be an emotions relaxer; but a necessary element of survival. No, you wont "die" if you dont have that pizza, cookie, cheesy nacho platter, double chocolate cake or full order of fries. But commercials and your head make you believe that you will if you dont grab, chug, stuff, chow one NOW! Now I believe I will "die" if I dont get my exercise in each day. That is good for the heart, mind, soul, and body...it's calorie free and there is no exerciser's remorse after it's over. Unless your muscles pitch a fit. That I can live with. It is much easier to get over a pulled muscle than a heart attack, hypertension, or even weight gain. All of which carry with them heavy mental and physical burdens.

I am curious to see how you guys answer this question. It has been something I have been wondering about for a while.

~Carrie

[Missy]

Before:
-I would take it out on other people (bad I know), or I had a tendency to throw objects

Now:
-I usually try to talk out what I'm feeling with my boyfriend and he can usually make me feel better. Or I will go to the gym and kick the crap out of my body until it hurts.

[Patty_Ann]

Before: I would run to the kitchen and eat something - usually junk food. I also used to throw things...anything next to me was flying.

Now: I take my anger out on walking - I work out if I become angry. I also run to my room and lay down to chill for a bit.

[mifsit]

Get some gloves and a punchbag, then play something like Metallica, beat the punchbag until you're exhausted and the anger is gone,

[muppet]

Well, I don't know if this will become a regular thing for me, but last time I got really upset with my son , I screamed. I thought he had already left for school, and I was at a boiling point. Frustration can really build up in you. So I let is out! It was hard on my vocal chords, but I felt a lot better. I also had a good cry. The only downside was that he hadn't left, and was waiting for his ride outside. Our house is very well insulated though, so I think it muffled it pretty well, but I still felt bad. But on the other hand, I know he does the same type of thing, so he probably understands, and it shows him that I am just as human as he is.
Next time I'll try it in a pillow though!
A nice long walk always works for me too. It 'takes me away', and I have a chance to calm down. I have some really great cds with traditional hymns that are jazzed up. I really love to listen to them, because they ground me. I pray, I listen, and I can feel God easing my burdens with every step. I think that's the best way to describe it. I give my anger, my frustrations all to Him, and when I come home, I'm back to being me again.
Great question. I've had some anger issues lately, and it's always good to reflect, and think about how you handle things. And compare that to the way you WANT to handle things.
Kid's are tough. You love them so much. It's always best to stay calm when dealing with any 'kid' issues, at any age, but it can be so hard, to keep those emotions in check, and handle things in the best way. I don't want to be a 'rent-bot' ( they call parents 'rents' -- I hate it), but I don't want to be an emotional mess either. I've learned that sometimes you need to step away. And counting to 10 might not be enough.

[wintolose06]

THEN: I turned all of my emotions and frustration inward, which usually resulted in going to Mcdonalds or the nearest store for junk food. I always was the nice good girl, that got along with everyone. That is because I turned all of my feelings inward and stuffed them down. Therefore, I turned my anger inward, because I didn't speak my mind and stand up for myself.
NOW: I stand up for myself and I am learning every day to share my thoughts and emotions with others. I have learned that expressing your thought and feelings does not have to be confrontational. For the rest of my life, I will be always reminding myself to treat myself with the same respect that I treat everyone else. Also, reminding myself that I am human and it is okay to make mistakes. Taking time for myself is now a top priority!!

[francine6413]

Before I would throw anything that was in my way. I once hit my brother with a iron. I have broken so many drinking glasses and plates that I can't see straight.
Now I handle my anger pretty well I think. when I'm alone I just have a big cry and every once in a while I would just scream out in the bathroom.