Is it lazy or depression

[francine6413]

I just don't know if I'm just being lazy or is it depression. Well lets say it's not depression. I have been feeling up beat for the most. But at this moment I just don't know. One moment I feel like I want to cry and then I just don't feel like nothing. Could I be going through menopause. (God I hope not)

Maybe I'm feeling this way because my baby is off to school and I just need to fill my time doing other things. Heck , why don't I just go back to bed and just call into work and sleep the rest of the day. Or could it be that I'm just plain out lonely. Well what ever it is. I just can't allow myself to feel this way. I know I need to work out harder.

Maybe I will go to work so that I will not be sitting here depress or bored ..heck I don't know.
Well you have to make up your mind soon it will be time for me to go to work.
Since I'm do collections ..it wouldn't be good for me today trying to collect money.
Well I just need some rest....just had to express what I am feeling at this moment.

[muppet]

Hey Francine -- that's why we're here. I hope you made it to work. If you're feeling down and lonely, crawling back into bed won't help. It will just make it too easy to do it again, and again, and again.
How old are you, if you don't mind my asking? I am 42, and I can tell that PMS is affecting me more than it used to. And from the research I've done, the best way to combat that, is with a healthy diet and regular exercise. It does work. Hormones are crazy, and as women we have to deal with their fluctuations are whole lives. If you give in, and eat whatever you want, and lay around the house, you will feel worse than ever. It's like pms, or peri-menopause, whatever you want to call it, can sense your weakness, and it just attacks that much stronger.
So, stay strong Francine! And please know you can say anything you want here. We might not know all the answers, but we'll always listen, and try our best to lend support.
Carol

[francine6413]

Muppet: I'm 45 yrs old. I did go into work today. I am feeling a lot better this afternoon. I know that I hate feeling like this because I just don't want to eat. I know that I have to eat daily. I'm on a meal plan that I'm alotted 1700 calories a day since I am working out. To me that is way to much food to be eating . I have tried several of the smoothies to start my day off. Since I am now getting up around 5:45am every morning to get my daughter off to school it's kind of helping me. I have a fold out stepper that I work out on after I take my daughter to the bus stop or take her to school. Noon I either fix me a salad or I will reheat what we had for dinner the night before.
But I'm really glad that I don't binge when I get like this.
I'm ok...I know this is the place to go..

Have a great day.

[Missy]

I am so glad that you didn't give in and that you went to work today. I know what it feels like to get into one of those slumps where you just feel like giving up altogether. Sometimes it just feels like it takes too much work to be able to do it...but you know what? You just have to stick with it and eventually it will be a routine for you and your body will be used to the new changes. I know how hard it can be to get all that food in as well...you just have to make yourself eat every couple hours even if you are not hungry. The reason you don't feel hungry is because your metabolism is probably running at a crawl because of not eating....by forcing yourself to eat every couple hours you will speed up your metabolism and burn way more fat in the long run!!

Hope you are feeling better, hang in there

[Trying4Thin]

Hi Francine,

Ok first of all...having a "sad" day once in a while is normal. We all have them. Those that say they dont are just full of fluff n stuff. However, you bring up a VERY good question. When is it just excuses time and when is it something else?

Depression is nothing new to society. I know I was diagnosed as clinically depressed when I was in high school. Other fellow posters here have also mentioned being diagnosed or feeling depressionlike symptoms as well. So I am going to tell you what I know...(Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, but I play one on this forum! haha)

Laziness is when you know you have to (or should do) something and you just flat out dont want to do it. You find excuse after excuse not to do it. Example: a person walking down the street finishing a candy bar and tossing the wrapper on the ground when there is a trash can 2 feet out of the way. Laziness is also expecting others to do things for you that you are fully capeable of doing yourself. Lazy people also shirk blame and look for a scapegoat because they feel they arent accountable for their actions...You know the type; nothing is ever their fault.

Depression on the other hand is an illness. It can be temporary or it can be lasting. Medical causes link it to low Seratonin levels in the brain. Depression can also be caused by a traumatic event, too much stress, lonliness etc. What is the difference between being in a bad mood and depression? Eventually the bad mood will lift. Depression will stay on until it is recognized and delt with either through counseling, problem solving to figure out its root of origin, or pills if a doctor deems them necessary. Will keep my pill opinions to myself.

What to look for....Depression can be a possible diagnosis if symptoms dont start to clear up after two weeks. Sufferers will experience any one (or more) of the following....Extreme weight loss or gain, loss of enjoyment of normal activities that normally bring them joy, mood swings (crying/anger jags or no emotional control at all), too much or too little sleep, sluggishness and brain fog, feelings of worthlessness, reclusive behavior, hopelessness and in severe cases; suicide. There are more but I am not going to list them.

It cant hurt to talk to somebody. But in the end, only you know your body and how it works. If something feels off; talk to a professional. A consult cant hurt. You are no good to yourself and your body if you arent at 100%. We are here for you if you need us.

~Carrie

[Patty_Ann]

I don't think I can saying anything that Carrie already hasn't. I have been through depression as well and my mom is dealing with it right now. It is very tough to deal with but remember that it is normal to have a bad day. I really hope that you are feeling better.

Carrie is quite the doc, too! She always manages to put a smile on my face and make me laugh out loud to where my hubby is wondering what I am reading. LOL

Take care Francine!

[Missy]

I agree with what Carrie has said also. I have been told I am bi-polar as well as having social anxiety disorder and I have been on meds and through councelling on 5 different occasions for it. When I was depressed, all I did was sleep all day everyday and not care, I didn't feel like there was anything worth getting up for. I didn't help out at all, my boyfriend had to do all the cooking and cleaning and since he worked 44 hours a week, we ended up grabbing fast food most of the time. I didn't work either because I didn't want to go...and when I did have a job I would cry every morning or call in sick...so my bf had the financial burden as well. I didn't care about myself and I didn't really care about anyone else in my life at the time. I just wished life would end.

I was on paxil for a little over a year as well and that just made me feel completely numb to everything. It made me not care even more. I am angry at myself for ever going on medication because all it did was make things worse for me. I gained 60 pounds in 4 months during that time.

[Trying4Thin]

Still with us Francine?

[Joysieangel]

Ive kind of been wondering about myself with this issue. The last couple of weeks, I dont want to work, I dont want to do anything around the house, I dont want to go anywhere or talk to anyone. I just want to sit home and cry. Then when hubby comes home and sees that there is nothing done he gets angry and I feel worse, I cry, he yells, I cry somemore, and just shrink away and do nothing for the rest of the night. Im afraid to go and see my doctor because about 7 or 8 years ago my doctor put me on Paxil saying that I was depressed. He could see a difference in my attitude, and that I was alway feeling "sick". Paxil made me worse. Like Missy said "numb" there was nothing that bothered me. I dont even remember really talking while I was on it. My doctor told me to take it at night so I would sleep through the side effects. It got so bad, one night I went through the house trying to find the guns. I was going to end everything I just couldnt take it anymore. Thank God my ex fiance was home that night and got to everything before I found it. I went off the medication, broke up with him, and everything seemed to be fine. I dont think Ive ever told anyone about this before. I dont think my husband even knows.