Joysieangel in August

[mifsit]

Hi Joy, We've all had rough patches so hang in there, ther is a light at the end of the tunnel. I'd suggest you make 1 meal instead of 2 and (i.e. the health one) as there are pleanty of healthy and tasty recipes out there. If they don't like it they can go to mcdonalds without you instead. They put upon you to make their meals so they get what they're given or go hungry.

[Trying4Thin]

Ok I am fired up and ready to go now....

Let me be the first to congratulate you on losing a size. That took a lot of hard work and effort on your part. Nobody did that but you. Enjoy the victory and dont let anyone try and take that from you. Losing weight is tough enough by itself; but to feel like you dont have one supporter in the world is even worse. I do know how you feel because my friends have scattered to the wind, my family is out of state and I am not in a relationship except with myself. Ok so you think you dont have any immediate allies; but actually you are ignoring your strongest one...YOU! What gives you the idea that nobody in your life supports you? I am sure they are just worried of how you will treat them when you get to your goal weight. By trying to sabotage you, they are making themselves feel better. Dont let them do it. Dont succumb to friendship mutiny!!Weight loss will reveal who your real friends are. If they cant accept you for who you are (overweight and content, overweight and changing, or thin), then they have no place in your life.
After all the work you do during the day; the least your family could do would be to help with the cooking; or make their own meal and you can make your own without feeling tempted. It took me a while to get this but; food is just nourishment. Once it loses it's magical power over you...that's all it is. You need it for survival. Man was getting along just fine before Doritos, Big Macs and Biggie Sized. If they dig in their heels; do some online research and figure out how to have your favorite meals without the excess fat, calories etc. It is amazing the recipes they have out now. Diet food doesnt have to be rabbit food. Just dont tell them they are eating Lite. Diet soda is tough to kick. I think I am down to 1 can a day now. You dont have to quit cold turkey (the caffeine headaches are murder). Just scale it down bit by bit. Try decaf iced tea, 100% juice orange juice, water with lemon, or anything else besides the soda. Or use it to tame a binge instead of chowing. Sounds like you are an emotional eater. Welcome to the club. Next time the urge to snack hits, get out of the house and take a walk, go to the mall and check out clothes, see a movie....most cravings will go away if you distract your stomach long enough. Try to keep stress low so you dont go into cortisol production (that junk produces belly fat). Next time something gets your goat; try closing your eyes and picturing yourself in an outfit you have always wanted to get into. Nothing is more important than that. Nothing is worth getting off track for. If you fall down, pick yourself back up and start over. Chances are, it isnt as bad as you think. Reguardless of what is (or isnt) going on at home, you have friends and supporters here. I am keeping positive that we will all one day have a forum reunion. One more thing; once you find your weight loss niche and learn to put yourself first, you may realize that you have the power to change what isnt working in your life. People who have eating disorders often settle for less than they deserve because they feel they dont deserve any better. As the weight comes off; so will the "goggles." It is amazing how clear the world will look to you after they come off.

If you need us, we are always here.
Thinking of you..

[muppet]

Hey kid, I know it's tough. But the most important thing you can do, and should be doing, is taking care of yourself. You'll be better at everything else, if you are healthy and happy.
I don't always take my own advice either. It's tough with a family. I want to please everyone. And I think that's great, but if I'm not pleased with myself, how can I possibly think I'm making anyone else happy?
You know you have to stick with it. There's no choice, because you know you aren't ever going to be happy with the status quo. That is what keeps me at it. I go forever with no results, because I am not doing the things I need to be doing. But I not going to give up. There's no option to throw in the towel. I just keep trying. And, I keep slipping, but I'm still plugging away. Moving forward, inch by inch.
So, don't get discouraged if you don't seem to be making any progress right now. You're here. You're thinking about things the right way, and you want to change things. You'll get to the point where it will actually happen. Something someone says or does will reach you, and you'll just do it.
We're here for you.
Carol

[Joysieangel]

Hi everyone

First off thank you for all the kind words. I means a lot to me. I just got done mowing our yard. It took a good hour.

Second of all, I just weighed myself, I guess it wasnt as bad as I thought it was. 278.2. It was a 1.1 pound gain in 2 weeks of slacking. I swear I weighed myself last week and it was like 284 or so. I think seeing today that it really wasnt that bad makes me feel like I can just pick myself back up and get back on the right track. Plus all the nice words, made me feel better that Im not alone, and that almost everyone has had set backs and that it is possible that my goals arent out of reach.

Thank you everyone!!!!!

[Missy]

I am so glad that you have realized you can do this. I don't know how many times I wanted to give up along the way...but I've lost almost 65 pounds and I would never have accomplished this if I had given up. I screwed up many times when I started and ate things I shouldn't have. I would be making progress just to gain weight again...but I didn't want to be fat anymore so I stuck with it and just kept going. I still have a long way to go but with my current mindset I know I can get there. I have given up on myself with almost every other aspect of my life...I don't want to give up anymore...because this is something I really want.

[Trying4Thin]

I think we have all wanted to quit more than once. DONT...it is a very slippery slope. It is easier to just keep plugging away and sooner or later your body will catch up with everything. As for the rest of the stuff in your life....It is time you took care of yourself first. When, and only when you are thinking clearly, it will be time to decide what direction you will want to see your life take. Keep in touch!

~Carrie

[Rocky]

I have to agree with Carrie 120% there. DON'T GIVE UP! I have had a tough few days here and felt like eating everything in sight... and did. I felt like crap after, I don't want to do that anymore. Good luck with tomorrow and getting back on track!

Carrie I LOVE that snowboarding avartar guy! Sooooo cute!

[Joysieangel]

This weekend wasnt too bad. I worked all weekend so my exercise wasnt done the best but I am on my feet all the time and walking back and forth serving drinks. Plus there was a cancer run for bikers this weekend so when the groups came im it was hectic. Eating wasnt too bad either, under on cals all weekend. Only thing I did, sat night after work I treated myself to a couple of drinks, lol a little more then a couple. I dont drink that often, I think our wedding (May) was the last time. It also didnt take much to get me looped lol. Now I am going to sit down and try to figure out a meal plan for this week. I made a deal with hubby to alternate things to make for supper. I am going to some days make things that fit with me, but I also cant ignore that he doesnt need to loose weight and there are things that he likes to eat also, it doesnt mean I have to eat them. I dont like the idea of temptation being there, but I cant just ignore him either. We had a very long talk this weekend, and I can see where he is coming from. He needs to be more supportive and I need to realize he's part of my life too.

[Missy]

Why doesn't your hubby help you with the cooking so you don't feel like you spend all your time making food? If you are both going to be eating different things it will make it much less stressful to have the extra help. I know what you mean about drinking alcohol now too. I used to drink all the time (I haven't been out of college that long) and now I drink maybe 2-3 times a year. I used to be able to polish off a good 12-15 beers in my college days and now I can drink maybe 3-4 vodka coolers and feel tipsy, lol. It's definately better this way though because I can get the same feeling on less alcohol...and it's way cheaper!!

[Trying4Thin]

I am not going to comment on this because I will overstep my bounds. I am glad that you sat down and had a long chat. Hopefully things will improve on all fronts.

Anyhooo...glad the pc is up and running. I hate being away from mine.

How goes work? Any new freaky co-workers? How is the (uh) step monster?

Keep us posted