Joysieangel's Journal

[Joysieangel]

Hi everyone,

First I want to say thank you to everyone for welcoming me to the site, I am so excited to have people I can talk to that seem to be going through some of the same things I am. I just started this yesterday so Im pretty new at counting calories and doing exercises, but I feel great for doing this even though its only day 2. I set a goal of 1500 cals a day. Considering that almost everyday I was eating out before this, Im hoping that this is a good start. Yesterday I was able to get in about 1400 and today Im stuck at 825. I dont feel hungry (which is a first) as far as exercise I bought one of those balls thats supposed to support your back I started that yesterday. I didnt feel much so Im assuming that I did it wrong. Today on the other hand, I did my stationary bike 30 min (6 miles) and did some exercises on the ball.Im feeling that already I walk back and forth to work everyday which is only about a block and a half each way but, Im am on my feet the whole time which is anywhere between 4-8 hours depending on the day. Ive also done some research on fat burners, ( not sure if I need it or not) But I started taking some green tea tablets. Im horrible drinking water (always went to soda) I have had 1 can in the past 2 days. Otherwise Im adding a no sugar no cal crystal light kind of thing. Well I think thats about it for my first 2 days.


-Joy

BW 7/25/06 280
BMI 42.6
First Goal 275
Ultimate Goal 150-165

[mifsit]

Hi Joy, Welcome to the forum. I know what you mean about water intake. I prefer something fizzy. Have sparkling water and add a bit of lemon or lime juice to give it a bit of flavour. If you're on your feet a lot get a pedometer and see what the results are.

Good luck on your journey.

[Missy]

Just wanted to stop by and say that you seem to be off to a pretty good start so far. Keep up the good work.

[Joysieangel]

Ok today not too good of a day. I bought a new scale this morning because I thought the one I had was off. I was right, so now I have an additional 4 pounds just by buying a new scale. I used my Gizelle for 30 minutes worked up a GREAT sweat but then I used a calc to find out how many cals I burned and as far as I can figure it was only about 430. Im a little sore from riding the bike yesterday so I guess I slacked a bit, but I dont want to over do it either otherwise Ill get bored and stop doing everything. I went to work were busy all day. After when and ran some errands. Came home and I was so hungry. I tried doing other things to take my mind off of food. Nothing worked. Ate an apple didnt work. Had a little pig out session. Filled me up though. Hubby came home from work and I had made him bbq ribs and because of my pig out session earlier hadnt been hungry. He made a fuss that I wasnt eating so I pigged out again just to make him happy. now I feel icky. So much for my 1500 cals today. It seems like its way to early in this diet and exercise to be doing this "slacking" . Now I have to work twice as hard to get something done tomorrow. Im a little confused too. There is a web site that I go on to figure out my cals burned compared to the cals I ate. There is a calculator that figures out how many cals you need a day to maintain your weight and to lose weight. Im figuring on 1500 a day. That seems to be the number that you hear all the time and what a " normal " person eats a day. According to my height and weight ( I dont know how accurate this is) In order for me to lose weight I can still get 2075 cals a day and be ok. Compared to what I was eating before starting this that is low. Compared to my 1500 this is high. Ill have to do more research to try and figure out how some of this still works. So much for my 3rd day lol

[mifsit]

I would not get too upset at what the new scales told you. I really only use the one at the gym to record the difference week to week as it is that which is important, though I do keep a record of what it says too obviously.

This is just my personal opinion and I don't know the whole domestic situation but it sounds like your Husband could be a bit more supportive. I wouldn't dream of giving my wife greif over not stuffing her face if she was trying to loose weight.

[muppet]

Don't worry about the scale. You know you didn't actually gain 4 pounds. What the number is realy isn't that important. It's where it goes-- hopefully down! Don't drive yourself nuts and weigh in too much either. I think once a week is plenty. If you do it too much, it's almost like you're bi-polar. Your body fluctuates so much through-out the day, and day to day -- one time you'll weigh in, and your weight will be down. Later that same day, you can be 5 pounds heavier! So, you go from -- WOO HOOOO!!! to Ohhh NOOOO!!!
So, just be sure it's the same time of day, same place.. etc. I think it usually works best, 1st thing in the morning.
30 minutes on your giselle, and a 430 calorie burn is GREAT! Why would you be disappointed in that?
You're doing things the right way . Ease into it. Remember -- it's a lifestyle change! Do things that you can see yourself doing for the rest of your life!
I have used those websites too. I do like them, bu they are just guidelines. It sounds like a 1500 a day calorie goal is pretty good for you. You'll definitely see results, if you can stick to it!
Next time you're starving and see a pig-out on the horizon, go ahead and eat that apple, drink some water, and come on here and talk yourself out of that pig-out. I've done it a few times, and it really works. And you feel so GREAT, knowing that you took control, and didn't give in! You'll also get nothing but encouragement from us.
Put yourself first Joy. Don't let anyone manipulate, or guilt you into eating. I know it can be tough, but your feelings are important too. So, your husband was happy, that you ate with him, and you ended up feeling icky. And, believe me-- I know that 'icky' feeling you're talking about! Have you talked with your husband about what you're trying to do? If not, please do so. Get those feelings out in the open. I hope it turns out that he's supportive and cooperative. If not-- we're here.
I'm certainly no expert, and not even that successful at losing weight. But I'm hanging in there-- it's a slow process. 1 step forward-- two steps back... But it's really not like that-- it just seems like it sometimes. I am winning this battle. And I'm doing it in a way that I can live with. You can't 'go on' a diet, or 'go on' an exercise program. Because that means you'll eventually 'go off' them. Make it a habit-- as natural as brushing your teeth. Making better food choices gets easier, the more you do it too. I also don't think that any food is actually 'bad'. You just have to watch your portions. And, you know-- common sense. Are you eating fruits and veggies? Whole grains? Lean protiens?
Ok -- enough out of me. I didn't post yesterday, so I guess I'm making up for it!
I don't know if anything I say helps at all. But please know that we're here, and we really do understand, and care.
Carol

[Trying4Thin]

Hello;

First off...scales are the root of all evil. Trust me. They do nothing but mess with your head and make you harbour nothing but negative feelings of failure towards yourself and your body. It can have you doing a "happy dance" one day and then wanting to jump out in front of a bus not two days later. I think I need to pay attention to what I type here because I still have a lot of resentment for all that it has done to me. As my mother would say, "Ignore the &&*%^& scale!" But like somebody else said earlier...your weight fluctuates throughout the day and you probably caught it at a "bad" time. Ok so the scale is mean to you....then seek a second opinion (and in my opinion) a more reliable one. Try on a pair of clothes and see if they are feeling any different. Looser clothes mean that you are burning fat and losing inches. Jewlery works too. Other members take pictures of themselves every so often. The proof is in the pictures. Keep this in mind too...1 actual pound of fat = 3,500 calories. For you to have gained 4 pounds, you would have had to have eaten aprox. 14,000 calories to make that kind of non-water gain. I think you would have remembered that.

As for your hubby "pitching a fit" over your not eating...I agree that he needs to be more supportive of you. Dont eat when you arent hungry. Maybe he felt badly eating in front of you. Maybe he is trying to "manipulate" your weight loss as a form of control. Maybe he is ashamed of his own weight and doesnt want to discuss it. I cant say for sure because I dont know either of you. What I can say is that you two need to sit down and have a long talk about hopes, dreams, and feelings. The only way to change something is to get to the root of what is causing it in the first place. Try to keep calm and tell your side of things. Then let him tell his side as well. Weight loss is tough; especially when you feel like you dont have an ally in your significant other, friend, family etc. Try using statements like, "When you (ex: force me to eat), it makes me feel......." Maybe he doesnt even realize he is doing it. Instead of having a food free for all; ask him to take a walk with you; or participate in some other activity. Food is not really all that important in the grand scheme of things. I know he wants you to be happy, and healthy. I bet the kids would love to have mom play with them too.

Ahhh the dreaded calorie question. I think everyone has difficulty trying to figure out what amount to use. The plan I am currently on at LA Weight Loss has me at 2,000 cals a day. I dont count; but that is way too much in my book. A good rule of thumb is to figure out what works best for you. Eat enough to satisfy your daily needs and workouts; but not enough that it slows down your loss too much or causes you to gain. So my advice is to just fiddle with it; or get a professional opinion. You should feel comfortably full; but not stuffed. Space out your meals since your body metabolizes better when the meals are small rather than a larger chow-down. Plus when hubby eats; you wont feel deprived, and he wont say anything about your not eating.

I do disagree with you on your calorie count. I think 430 calories in a half hour is EXCELLENT!! You should be very proud of yourself!! As you get stronger and more calorie burning efficient; your calorie count will go down because your body will need to be challenged more. So continue to shake it up. Bike soreness? Turn on a movie when biking. It is really hard to feel any pain when you are laughing at a good comedy; or freaked out by a good scary one. Follow that with a hot tub soak. Nothing feels better!

Keep us posted!
~Carrie

[Missy]

I am with everyone else who has responded to your last post. Don't let the scale get to you. Scales are NOT accurate by any means and the best time to weigh yourself is first thing when you get up in the morning and empty your bladder etc...because at that time of day most of your previous foods have been digested. Weight can fluctuate throughout the day by at least 5 pounds, drinking water can even make you go up on the scale. Don't let it get to you, just keep pushing yourself regardless of what the numbers say and you will get to where you want to be eventually. The scale also calculates both muscle and fat and since muscle weighs more than fat, it makes scales less accurate.

If anything, I would measure your progress with a measuring tape, to see if you are losing inches. Measure around your neck, chest, biceps (flexed), waist, hips, thighs and calves. Maybe do this every couple weeks or once a month to see the changes.

The thing to remember is that everyone plateaus at one point or another. There have been times when I have been busting my butt off at the gym (I work out 5 days a week for at least 2 hours and do cardio and intense weight training with a personal trainer) and I sit at the same weight for a month or more. BUT, you just have to keep going no matter what. Don't give up. Don't let it get to you and make you quit...

[Joysieangel]

Hi Everyone

Today has been much better then yesterday. Im under on my cals, worked out to Walking away the pounds today, didnt seem to press me at all, was really busy at work. My pedometer said I had roughly 3500, that was walking to work being at work and walking home. The most Ive ever had on it was about 6200 and that was when I was carhopping at the beginning of our season. I did good on my water. Ive decided that I can have one soda a day. Hopefully then I wont have a craving for it and stop with the water.

I just want everyone to know that one of the reasons that I registered on this site was because of the motivation and the good attitudes that I saw on the posts. I knew that I wouldnt get that here at home, hubby and I are going through a rough time right now. His ex wife messed him up quite a bit, but it wasnt like this when we were dating now here we are 3 months into our marriage and something has changed with him. He wont admit it but I think that he's thinking if I lose this weight Im going to leave him. We had our talk tonight about why I want to lose weight and he said that if people dont like the way he looks then to heck with them. I looked at him and I said I dont really care what other people think of me, but what if I'm the one that doesnt like myself looking like this. He didnt have anything to say. SO Im hoping that now he can just realize that this is something that I want to do and Im going to do it with or without him wanting me to. Sorry didnt mean to get sidetracked on the hubby thing.

This weekend is going to be kind of rough, step daughter is coming in the morning for the weekend. She is overweight herself and there is nothing that I can do to get her to stop eating.

When I got home from work I made my extra bedroom into an exercise room. tv and dvd for my work out tapes, tread machine, gizelle and bike are in there. Then on the weekends I can work out by myself and not in front of hubby or his daughter. I feel really good about myself today. Again I cant say it enough THANK YOU for your kind words. I appreciate everyone for helping me and listening to me vent a bit. LOL

[72butterfly]

Hi Joysieangel,
This is the place. Everyone here is very supportive. I tend to post when I am struggling such as not wanting to exercise, I want to eat, etc. I have a lot of support in my life, but sometimes that is not enough. My bf works a ton. He works construction for a few different contractors so he may do a day shift with one and then do another couple hours with another one in the evenings and on weekends and he travels for jobs too. That makes it hard. He's the one that I want to talk to first and I can't always so this website is very important to me.

I am happy to hear that you are doing this for you and no one else. Of course you come first. I think you are off to an excellent start and keep up the good work. Do keep in mind that you have identified if you try to overdo it you will quit. Keep an eye on that. I think what helps the most when you are making a lifestyle change is knowing yourself. That way you know your limits, strengths, and weaknesses. This helps with you not setting yourself up for failure. I wish you the best.