You make a great point Susie,
I found that the more weight I gained to try and become invisible, the more I actually attracted attention to myself. People tend to stare at (and treat differently), those who are overweight and morbidly obese. In a society where looks come first and personality comes second, it's no wonder that people who dont fit into a size 6 or less, just want to run and hide. That and the fact that Plus Size clothes are awful....I also agree with you about having the fear that nobody will like you, and things will never change despite weight loss and lifestyle changes. That thought scares me everyday..."What if I lose it all and I am still alone?" Rest assured, there is nothing wrong with any of us. If guys are too blind to realize what great thing they have in front of them, then they arent worth it. I am so sorry to hear about your breakup. I too am trying to win somebody's heart. Your fiancee made the decision to strap on the walking shoes, and the decision should be yours and yours alone whether or not you take him back, or slam the door on him forever. All I can tell you is, keep your head held high, and dont let anyone ever tell you that you arent good enough. As far as I am concerned, the man needs to start groveling!
Ok Dr Phil time...
~Carrie