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Thinking back -- so many comments from people.. family and friends--- just thoughtless, cruel comments. Some passive / aggresive -- the worst kind. Most of these from my Mom, ( talking about someone I went to high school with -- 'boy, you think YOU got fat, you should see her!) Oh boy - I feel so much better know that someone is an even bigger cow than me!
When I was in high school -- 15-16 years old -- my sister got married and had babies -- my mom would say ' I don't understand how you put on weight, with little kids. I always stayed so skinny running around after them...." I'm sure she said the same thing about me, and my other sister too, after we had our babies. I imagine she said that to her sister, and sister in law---- dont' get me wrong -- I love these people dearly, but they have no clue what their little comments can do to someone.
I remember being a little kid -- maybe 9 or 10 , and my aunt pointing out, and laughing at my 'spare tire'. And her being a very large woman herself! I was by no means a fat kid -- not ever. But that comment made me look at myself differently. There are so many things that were said to me at that age, and so many things that happened to me that I don't remember -- but I remember that.
I have a sister in law who suffers from anorixia / bulimia. My mother in law insists that some boyfriend she had is the cause of this .. Could be... but learning more from my husband -- she used to constantlly compare her to an aunt, who was extrememly over-weight . "Oh, Sally is just like Aunt Alice...' Well, do you think that maybe planted some seeds? 'Oh no, I'm going to grow up to be so FAT!!!"
Oh, I could go on and on, and probably will .... another time.
It drives me crazy, thinking about all the thoughtless things people say. I may be a little bit overly sensitive about it... and most aren't meant to be hurtful....but if people would just THINK a little bit before they speak....
I've said dumb things too -- things I've been sorry for -- not about weight, but you know what I mean. The wrong comment to the wrong person-- we've all done that. We've all said things we've wished we could take back... but some comments are so unnecessary.. why bother to say them at all?
Think before you speak!
Thanks for letting me vent!
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